Do you ever wonder what your purpose is as a woman? Your identity as a woman in this world?
In the book of Genesis, our purpose and true identity as a woman is revealed. I believe this Scripture is misinterpreted by a lot of people, especially women. It is important that we understand it correctly and live up to our full potential.
And the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’ – Genesis 2:18 (NKJV)
I used to cringe whenever I heard this Bible verse, I went straight into defensive mode. I don’t want to be a “helper” or “helpmeet”, that sounds so lame. Like I was made to be an assistant or servant of man. This my dear sisters is a lie. You are made for so much more. In Hebrew, the word used to describe woman is Ezer kenegdo. It’s a difficult word to translate into English or any other language.
Ezer has two meanings in Hebrew, depending on the pronunciation: to rescue/to save and to be strong. In the Old Testament, the word Ezer is used 21 times. We can roughly divide the different Scriptures in three ways the word “Ezer” is used:
- Ezer used for the woman.
Genesis 2:18; Genesis 2:20
- Ezer used for nations to whom Israel appealed for military aid.
Isaiah 30:5; Ezekiel 12:14; Daniel 11:34
- Ezer used for God as Israel’s helper.
Exodus 18:4; Deuteronomy 33:7; Deuteronomy 33:26; Deuteronomy 33:29; Psalm 20:2; Psalm 33:20; Psalm 70:5; Psalm 89:19; Psalm 115:9; Psalm 115:10; Psalm 115:11; Psalm 121:1; Psalm 121:2; Psalm 124:8; Psalm 146:5; Hosea 13:9
What these Bible verses have in common is that Ezer is used consistently in a military context. The Ezer is a warrior. You are a warrior.
The Hebrew word Kenegdo means opposite as to him or corresponding as to him. A woman is no better or less than the man. Man and woman are equally and uniquely created – a perfect fit.
Modern-day Ezer Kenegdo
The word Ezer Kenegdo might be old but the purpose of our existence as women is the same. You are a strong warrior, complementary to man. I love the word complementary. Complementary is what you are, not what you are doing. Complementary is not what you become, you were born complementary to man. Does this mean you can only be whole with a man? No, I don’t think so. I think you will be complete with the right man, and without one, you are still God’s beloved daughter. You are a warrior princess and there is nothing you can’t do with the power of the King of kings.
The way I see it is that man and woman are like two hands. Your left hand and right hand are the same but also different. You have bones, muscles, veins, skin, nails. And you have fingers and a thumb on each hand. Your left and right hand are the exact opposite of each other, but the one hand is not more important than the other one. One hand might be a little stronger and is your preferred hand, but you can perfectly use each hand on its own. Together your hands can do more. They are even stronger than your preferred hand. You can get more done with less effort when using both hands together. This is only going to work when your one hand is the kenegdo to your other hand.
“Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things that have been freely given to us by God.” – 1 Corinthians 2:12 (NKJV)
So what does the modern-day Ezer Kenegdo do without a man? She roots and grounds herself in love and strengthens herself by the Holy Spirit (Ephesians 3:16-19).
Think of one thing or area in which you have held yourself back -believing that you shouldn’t or couldn’t do it because you are a woman. Go back to that moment and ask the Holy Spirit to show you what you can do to strengthen yourself in situations like that. Pray the answer over your life, so you become more deeply grounded in Christ.
Remember, you are a warrior princess of the Most-High King. Complementary to man.
God intended you to be an Ezer Kenegdo right from the beginning.